Overcoming Challenges: Divorce
“How I Love Lucy was born? We decided that instead of divorce lawyers profiting from our mistakes, we’d profit from them.” – Lucille Ball
Over the past few years in working with professional athletes and business professionals across the country, we have uncovered some common challenges that most people will be confronted with in life.
The challenges include: Lack of Significance and Purpose, Financial Loss, Anger & Bitterness, Substance Abuse, Time Management, Divorce, Physical Challenges, Isolation, Depression, and Denial.
Over the next few posts, I will attempt to share some practical keys to help you or someone you know navigate the issue they are challenged with.
The purpose is not to solve the challenge. But we do want to create a road map for the challenge to no longer keep you or anyone you know from accomplishing the dreams. Unlock the Champion is here to help, offering services such as our life skills workshop to help business professionals, athletes, and students discover who they are and what they want in life to be happy and feel successful.
Did you know that over 50% of NFL marriages fail in the first year after leaving the game?
It takes focus and time to be great at anything. The reality is that many times, the time that is spent being great in one area causes a shortage of what’s needed for success in other areas of our lives.
For an NFL player, they sacrifice and deny themselves of the time, memories, and opportunities to be with their family because of the game. And even when they are home, they have to rest or watch game film to prepare for the next game.
The reality is that like many people, players can sometimes neglect their marriage because of the priority of their career.
If you are trying to help someone facing the challenges of divorce, here are 5 Coaching Strategies to help them through the process:
- Listen well. Don’t interject your opinion. Don’t compare your situation or another situation. Just listen and be present with them as they express what they are going through.
- Help create a support network. It will be important for them to have a safe and supportive network of people who will be willing to assist. Even if it means just to lend an ear, or to invite over for holidays. Everyone needs to feel as though they still belong, and has someone to reach out to.
- Check in with them regularly. Don’t wait for them to call you. Take the initiative to simply check in. It doesn’t have to be a long conversation. It’s just an acknowledgement that someone is thinking of them.
- Bucket your frustration. Everyone needs a place to vent! Be willing to allow them to vent their frustration without judgment, or trying to fix what’s happening. Remember, a person can’t access the logic and reason portion of the brain while the emotional side is still active. They need to be able to release their emotions in order for them to process information logically.
- Help find a counselor, or someone professionally trained and equipped to help. Do not take on the role of the counselor. Being a friend is one thing. Being a counselor is something else. Encourage them to talk to a counselor who can help them navigate this season of their life.
Unlock the Champion can help individuals at all stages in their relationship, career, and life to address damaging routines and thought processes while navigating a route for future success. If you’re ready to be a champion in your own right, contact us online and follow our feeds below!
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